The Law of Forgiveness
I believe that one of the key things to generating peace of mind is forgiveness. The most powerful reason to forgive is for your own freedom, however one of the things you have to remember is that true forgiveness takes place in your heart not your mind.
You cannot try and force yourself to forgive for the sake of creating peace and there is no true forgiveness under the terms "I can forgive but I'll never forget."
True forgiveness is about completely letting go. Letting go of negativity from the past. Negativity from which anger can be formed - thus leading to pride. Anger and pride can consume your mind if you allow it. Some of us find it to hard to let go and say "I forgive you." For pride stops you from wanting to be seen as a pushover not necessarily to that person - but to yourself.
For most of us we know no better really. When i was younger i was not taught that if someone does you wrong, you let it go and you forgive them. When someone does you wrong, your natural reaction is to get angry. And if the situation is not resolved there and then, that anger will nest it's self within you.
Something that we have to realise is that we are all different. We all have our own paths, we think differently,we act differently, we react differently. People make different mistakes and sometimes people make mistakes that you may not necessarily be able to understand because it was a mistake that was made against you, therefore all you can see is "That person did me wrong - I'm angry. But we all have to find our own way and we do so by making mistakes. For the majority of us at some point or another, we learn and mature from our mistakes. If God can forgive you for your mistakes how can you not find it in your heart to forgive somebody else for there's.
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Forgiveness of another (or yourself) restores the truth of one's own being. Forgiveness is not about condoning an action that may have hurt you but an understanding of why it occurred and the process of letting it go. It is not about forgetting what happened but about accepting what was and now no longer is.
Here i have included a video of an interview with a man who i deeply admire because of his strength. In 1995 Azim Khamiza lost his son in a gang related murder. Azim shares how holding resentment takes up precious space in our minds. In forgiving his son's killer Azim was able to create a foundation that educates and empowers.
As you saw, Azim went on to create something wonderful through his forgiveness. What could you create through yours?
On that note i wanted to end by saying, let go of that dead energy which is the past and move forward to the present which is where you and the other are today.
The past is lived and cannot be changed. It no longer serves you, it is merely a record to be utilized for discernment, not to keep yourself or another in a box which is no longer true.
Like i said earlier - the most powerful reason to forgive is for your own freedom. Do you choose to be happy?